Finding Your True Voice
There are very few things in life you can count on consistently through out the course of your lifetime.
Marriages will end. Friends will drift. Children will grow up and leave home. Identities will shed like old skin.
The world will change around you. Happiness will ebb and flow. Everything you’ve built will eventually dissolve.
But there is one thing that never leaves: your voice.
And when I say “voice,” I’m talking about the full expression of nature’s intention for you — the inner force of truth. The quiet compass that knows what matters and what doesn’t.
Your voice is not a luxury and it is not a side project. It’s a lifeline.
When Everything Falls Away, Your Voice Remains
One day, everything external will fall away — the relationships, the possessions, the achievements, even the identities you’ve spent years shaping.
What remains is your essence. Your voice.
It’s the thread that connects your outer life to your inner truth. It’s the part of you that has been whispering all along, pointing toward the life only you can live.
And here’s what’s unavoidable: you will die with your voice.
Whether you’ve used it or not, whether you’ve honored it or abandoned it. Whether you’ve shaped your life around it or spent years suppressing it to fit, please, or perform.
In the end, your voice — your most essential self — is all you have.
Death Reminds Us What Matters
When I did death work with Wilka Roig, something landed in my body I had always intuited but never faced directly:
We fantasize about dying surrounded by loved ones. But in truth, death is solitary.
Even if your family is in the room. Even if the morphine flows. Even if someone reads poetry as you fade. The path of dying is walked alone and that reality clarifies everything.
The only question that remains is: When you inevitably take that path, will you be proud of the life you walked to get there?
Will you be proud of how you listened? Of how you spoke? Of what you chose to create and share with the world?
Avoiding Your Voice Is Avoiding Your Life
Avoiding your voice isn’t just a missed opportunity. It’s a betrayal.
Every time you abandon your voice — to climb the corporate ladder, to remodel the kitchen, to wait for more time or more money or more clarity, to defer to someone else’s opinion, to do what’s safe or strategic or socially accepted — you reinforce a life built on avoidance.
Research tells us the most common regret of the dying is this:
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
Your voice is how you live that life.
Not just outwardly, but inwardly. Because your voice doesn’t just shape your work. It shapes your relationship with yourself. It’s the most direct line to your inner world, your truth, your sacred natural blueprint.
When you avoid your voice, you’re avoiding your life. When you abandon it, you abandon the only self who walks with you to the end.
But when you use your voice — even imperfectly, even in fear — you live true.
The Final Moments
I’ve always thought about dying. Not morbidly, but as a grounding practice.
I think about who I’ll be in that liminal space where the world recedes and only truth remains. I imagine myself in the final days, the noise stripped away, meeting myself fully.
And I know, with bone-deep certainty: If I’ve been faithful to my voice, I’ll die in peace.
Because that’s the only relationship I’ll still be in.
I want to meet myself in that moment with love, pride and awe.
I want to be able to say:
You listened. You tried. You showed up.
The Voice You Die With — Writing Prompt
If this stirs something in you, sit with it. Find a quiet place. Set a timer for 15–30 minutes. Then imagine this:
You are dying. Whether in a hospital bed, on a mountainside, or somewhere unexpected — the details don’t matter. What matters is this: you are alone. The people who love you may be near, but the door is closing. You know this next part must be walked by you alone.
And then, you realize: your voice is still with you.
Write a dialogue between your current self and the voice that has walked with you all your life:
What does it thank you for?
What does it ache for?
What does it wish you had done?
What does it still want you to know?
Let it speak, then answer. You may be surprised by what you hear.
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Your true voice is your inner compass — the fullest expression of your essence and nature’s intention for you. It’s how you live aligned with your deepest truth.
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Because avoiding your voice means avoiding your life. Using it helps you live authentically and prevents the deep regret of unexpressed potential.
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Facing impermanence strips away what’s superficial. It makes clear what matters — and reminds us that your voice is the one thing that will always remain.