How to Uncover What Makes You Unique
“Our passing through this earth is so absurd and fleeting, that it calms me to know that I have been authentic, that I have managed to be more like myself as much as I could.”
—Frida Kahlo.
There’s something inherently human about the longing to live authentically — to uncover what makes you unique and express it fully in the short time you’re here.
But here’s the paradox: authenticity is elusive. No one hands you a map. You evolve so quickly that even when you think you’ve “found yourself,” you’re already changing.
Over the last decade, working with hundreds of wellness and transformation professionals, I’ve developed a process to help your unique voice emerge — so that what makes you you becomes not only clearer, but expressed in a way the world can feel.
This three-stage process isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about creating space for your originality to surface.
Stage 1 — Laying Fertile Ground
You cannot uncover what makes you unique if you never create space for your voice to emerge.
Set aside 30 minutes every day to be with yourself. No distractions. No social media. No external input.
This is where most people quit — because it’s messy and unrewarding at first. You’ll bump up against restlessness, discomfort, and the loud inner voices telling you it’s pointless. That’s normal.
Your only job here is to listen.
Whether you sit in silence, write freely, speak into a voice memo, or let your mind wander — what matters is that you show up consistently.
By creating this container, you’re telling your nervous system: “I’m here. I’m available. I’m listening.”
Over time, you’ll start to hear whispers of what’s been waiting beneath the noise.
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Stage 2 — Let Your Thoughts & Feelings Roam Free
Think of this stage like building a bridge between your unconscious and conscious self.
“Write everything down. And I mean everything.”
Every thought. Every idea. Every flicker of inspiration or frustration. Symbols, dreams, desires, fears — nothing is too small or too strange to capture.
This stage isn’t about making sense of anything yet. It’s about gathering the raw material of your voice.
As with dreamwork, the more you record, the more emerges. Over weeks or months, you’ll begin to notice patterns. Themes repeat. Certain ideas hold energy while others fade.
This isn’t overthinking — it’s overhearing yourself.
By the end of this stage, you’ll have a living archive of insights, visions, and fragments that hint at your deepest truths.
Stage 3 — Bring Your Gifts Into Form
Once you’ve created space and collected your raw material, the next step is expression.
This is where you breathe life into what’s been whispering through you. Start small:
Write a blog or a social post.
Share an idea in a video.
Build a simple offer around a recurring theme in your work.
Here’s the hard part: your creations will rarely match your vision at first. The form will feel clumsy compared to the brilliance of the idea inside you. That’s normal — form is limitation.
Mantra: Done is better than perfect.
Your job is not to perfect your voice but to practice letting it live in the world. Over time, expression refines itself. Each attempt brings you closer to resonance.
The Power of Iteration
There are more stages beyond this — sculpting, refining, publishing — but here’s the truth:
Perfection is an illusion. Expression is an iterative process.
Every time you bring your voice into the world, you strengthen it. You learn. You refine. You deepen into what makes you you.
And that’s the point.
Why This Process Matters
When you create space for your voice, something profound happens:
You get clearer on what matters to you.
You feel freer in your self-expression.
Your work becomes more resonant and magnetic.
And you stop comparing yourself to everyone else because you finally see that your uniqueness is the strategy.
This isn’t just about creativity or marketing — it’s about returning to yourself.
Start Uncovering What Makes You Unique
Your voice matters. Your perspective matters. And the world doesn’t need another polished performance — it needs your essence.
If you want guided support on this journey, join our free 5-day training designed for wellness and transformation professionals. You’ll learn how to:
Unearth your unique voice
Align your business with your values
Build authentic visibility that feels alive
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By creating space, listening inward, and noticing the recurring themes in your thoughts, experiences, and values.
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It’s not a destination — it’s an ongoing practice. But creating daily space accelerates clarity.
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Start anyway. Readiness comes through expression, not before it.
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When your offerings are rooted in your uniqueness, you stop competing on price or trends. You attract clients who resonate with your essence.