How to Discover the Life Themes That Shape Your Purpose
How to decode the patterns shaping your becoming
Take a closer look at the “coincidences” in your life — the chance encounters, the repeating challenges, the things you can’t seem to stop circling back to — and underneath them, you’ll find something deeper: rational stepping stones guiding you toward what you’re here to reckon with.
Call it fate, call it God, call it determinism — but your life is speaking to you through patterns. And when you start noticing them, you begin to see something astonishing: there are themes running through your existence, weaving a kind of hidden architecture beneath the surface.
I call these the great themes of your life.
What Are the Great Themes of Your Life?
Your great themes are the recurring patterns, questions, and desires that shape the entire trajectory of your becoming. They reveal themselves through the stories you tell, the relationships you choose, the challenges you face, and the dreams you keep returning to — over and over, no matter how much time passes.
In one of my old journals from 2019, I found a list I had written titled “Life Themes.”
Words like belonging, meaning, significance, and adventure filled the page. At the time, I thought I’d “figure them out” and move on, but when I stumbled on that journal years later, I realized I was still reckoning with the same themes. The threads were continuous — they hadn’t disappeared; they had simply evolved.
And here’s the thing: while many people share similar themes, no one else reckons with them in the same way you do. Your upbringing, values, wounds, desires, and life experiences shape the lens through which you engage your themes — which makes your perspective, and your becoming, completely unique.
If we combined all of humanity’s reckonings, we might come close to glimpsing the whole truth. But your contribution — your personal myth — is yours alone.
Why Identifying Your Life Themes Matters
The people you meet. The opportunities you attract. The obstacles you face.
These are not random. They are shaped by — and shaping — the themes you’re here to explore.
Think of yourself as an organism in constant dialogue with your environment. You’re not separate from life; you’re in co-creation with it. And your great themes are the patterns life keeps returning you to — the curriculum of your becoming.
When you understand these themes and consciously partner with them, everything changes. You stop being dragged unconsciously through repeating loops and start working with the deeper material of your life.
What Joseph Campbell and Sharon Kaufman Teach Us About Themes
Joseph Campbell once described a similar realization while compiling decades of his lectures into a single book:
“Twenty-four years is a pretty good stretch of time; a lot had happened during that period. And there I was babbling on about the same thing. That’s my myth in there.”
In other words, the thing that moves you stays constant, even as the form it takes changes.
Similarly, anthropologist Sharon Kaufman studied how older adults make sense of their lives and found that people organize their experiences into four to six central life themes. These themes become the framework through which they integrate identity, purpose, and meaning.
Common examples she found include:
Belonging and connection
Creativity and contribution
Spiritual understanding
Self-reliance and independence
Service and community
Achievement and significance
Your list will be different. But you have one. And when you start naming it, you begin to understand the subject matter of your life’s work.
Your Life’s Work Emerges From Your Themes
Your life’s work isn’t something that “happens” to you.
It’s not bestowed upon you by a single epiphany or external authority.
It’s the organic synthesis of your themes — the recurring questions, patterns, and desires you’ve been circling for years.
When you don’t engage consciously with this material, you risk staying stuck, looping through the same patterns without ever fully integrating what they’re trying to teach you. But when you lean into your themes, you begin to transmute them into something larger: your purpose, your expression, your contribution.
Three Practices to Unearth the Great Themes of Your Life
Here are three ways to begin working with your themes:
1. Return to Your Journals
Look back at your old writing.
What were you wrestling with five, ten, or fifteen years ago?
Which questions keep resurfacing? Which desires refuse to leave you alone?
2. Track Your Dreams and Images
Your unconscious is always speaking.
Notice which images, metaphors, and stories appear again and again — both in your sleep and in your waking thoughts. They’re often gateways into your deeper preoccupations.
3. Pay Attention to Charged Moments
Notice what evokes strong emotion in you:
The arguments you return to
The causes you care most about
The stories in the news you can’t stop reading
The moments of awe, anger, longing, or joy that pierce you
These reactions are signals. They point directly toward the material you’re here to work with.
Living in Partnership With Your Themes
Your themes aren’t problems to solve. They are portals.
When you stop fighting them and start collaborating with them, you open the door to a more aligned, meaningful, and expressive life. You begin to see the shape of your personal myth and the unique contribution only you can make.
This is the real work of self-actualization: becoming an active participant in the unfolding story you’re already living.
Next Step: Join the 5-Day Training
Unearthing your themes is deep work — and you don’t have to do it alone.
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They’re the recurring patterns, desires, challenges, and questions that shape your identity and guide your becoming.
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By tracking what repeats — in your journals, relationships, dreams, conflicts, and passions.
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Because they point you toward your life’s work — the deeper material you’re here to engage, resolve, and express.
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They might. Generally the forms they take evolve, but the essence — the thing that moves you — stays constant across your life.