Finding Your Voice
How to Navigate the Chaos of Creative Becoming
You might think that, given the amount of content I produce — for myself and for my clients — I’ve somehow graduated from the chaos of the creative process. That I’ve transcended the doubt and disorder. That I sit down to write and something clear, potent, and original pours effortlessly through my fingertips like magic.
You would be wrong.
Just this month, I had a day of complete hopelessness. Nothing was working. I was trapped in the double-bind of being overwhelmed by the process and underwhelmed by the results. I try so hard. I care so much. And when it still doesn’t land the way I want it to? It’s deflating.
But here’s the truth no one tells you: finding your voice is messy. Chaotic. Uncomfortable. By its nature, the process requires you to spend more time in fog, frustration, and not-knowing than in clarity.
And that’s not a sign you’re doing it wrong. It’s the sign you’re in it.
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Finding Your Voice Is Chaotic — And That’s the Point
When you first begin shaping your voice — whether in writing, marketing, or building your body of work — almost everything is unknown. The rules aren’t written yet. The frameworks don’t exist. You’re building the plane mid-flight.
Your job isn’t to master certainty. Your job is to stay inside the process long enough for your voice to reveal itself.
That means sitting in the fog. Showing up when you’re not ready. Learning to move forward when the path is unclear and trusting you’ll survive the uncertainty.
Why the Creative Process Feels So Hard
Every piece of content, every program, every offering begins in chaos. Your ideas don’t arrive in bullet points — they arrive as sensations, images, tangled thoughts, and half-formed sentences. It’s your job to translate them into form.
And that translation is uncomfortable because it asks you to do three impossible things at once:
Trust the work without knowing where it’s going.
Stay committed when your drafts feel cringey.
Keep showing up when the results don’t match your effort.
You can’t shortcut this part. You have to move through it. And yes, it’s going to feel like chaos. Because it is.
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An Example From My Own Voice Journey
Every month, my VA and I create a lot of content together. One of the most meaningful pieces is the Muse — something I never want to force into being. I want it to emerge honestly, not mechanically.
But because I let it emerge, the process is unpredictable. Sometimes I draft it a month in advance. Sometimes a week before. And sometimes… I freak out the night before it’s due, staring at a blank page wondering how I’ve forgotten how to write altogether.
And yet — it always gets done. Not because I have perfect clarity, but because I’ve built trust in the process. We’ve done it 17 times now; that’s enough data to believe the 18th will happen too.
Iteration builds resilience. But it only builds if you keep showing up.
Trust Builds Through Repetition, Not Certainty
Most people quit before they find their voice. Not because they aren’t capable, but because they’re unprepared for how hard this feels.
Trust doesn’t come first. It’s what you earn by surviving the fog.
Every failed draft, every cringey post, every “I can’t do this” spiral is part of it. Every time you sit down anyway, every time you return to the page, you’re building evidence: I’ve been here before, and I know how to get through it.
That’s what trust really is — muscle memory forged through repetition, not mindset hacks. You can’t NLP your way into it. You build it by living it.
How Chaos Shapes Your Authentic Voice
Your voice is a bridge between the limitless and the limited — between what exists in the ether of imagination and what becomes real, tangible, and felt in the world. Every time you write something, name something, or say something aloud that didn’t exist before, you’re midwifing an idea into form.
And that’s inherently messy.
Your job isn’t to bypass the chaos. It’s to work through it:
To take something raw and render it meaningful.
To shape tangled thoughts into something coherent.
To give your ideas the fullest expression possible.
You are not failing. You are forming. The mess isn’t a problem. It’s the process.
Practical Framework for Navigating the Unknown
When the chaos feels unbearable, here’s what I return to:
Name what’s true. “I feel lost right now” is better than pretending you don’t.
Lower the stakes. Stop trying to write the final version on the first pass.
Iterate without judgment. The drafts you hate are the compost for the ones you love.
Track your patterns. Evidence builds trust. Look back at the times you’ve gotten through.
Voice reveals itself through practice, not perfection.
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Keep Going — This Is the Rite of Passage
Here’s the thing about finding your voice: the day you stop feeling lost is probably the day you stop growing.
There will be moments where you wonder if you’re still on the right path. Where you question if you ever had anything worth saying. Where it feels like you’re spinning in circles, repeating yourself endlessly.
That’s when continuing matters most.
Because if you keep showing up — not perfectly, but honestly — something begins to take shape. A new layer of your voice reveals itself. You write a line that lands deeper than you expected. You surprise yourself with what you know.
And you realize you were never lost. You were just becoming.
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Because your voice emerges through translation — from sensation to form, from raw ideas to language. Chaos isn’t a sign you’re failing; it’s part of the process.
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Trust isn’t the starting point. It builds through repetition — by showing up, failing, iterating, and discovering your capacity to survive the fog.
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There’s no fixed timeline. Your voice evolves as you evolve, revealing itself through consistent practice and a willingness to embrace the mess.